Points of Order

Just a few thoughts:

1. Yes, I stole the idea for this month's header from Meghan. Yes, I think she'll get over it. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
2. Irish people should always wear sunblock. The 2nd degree sunburn on my shoulders agrees.
3. I am currently torn between really wanting to return to work and continuing to stay at home for awhile. In the pro column for gainful employment is the second income that our family has been used to for awhile now, and the incessant stream-of-consciousness ramblings of my toddler will be much more bearable in smaller amounts. In the pro column for staying at home, I can plan an extended trip to New England and Newfoundland in July and August. And, you know, not having to...like...work.
4. I support Arizona's new immigration law. There. I said it. Maybe I have a slightly different perspective living less than a hundred miles from the border, but the way I see it is this: drug cartels and gangs = bad. By toughening up our immigration laws, we are cracking down on the number of corruptive influences that make their way into the country. Yes, I realize that a number of people come here to find work to support their families. Well, here's what I have to say to that: DO IT LEGALLY. No, I do not think that I should have to support you and your family and have my taxpayer dollars fund your health benefits when you aren't even in this country LEGALLY. I understand that Arizona's new law raises concerns about racial stereotyping and can sympathize with those who are here legally who may be subject to unfair treatment. But on the other hand, these legal citizens have probably been through the ringer in getting legal status, so if it were me and I did all that work, I might be kind of pissed if someone were reaping the advantages not having put in the work.
5. This "Everyone Draw Mohammed Day" is Stoopid. You're just fueling the fire, people. Stop being immature and leave well enough alone.
6. The Library of Congress recently archived all tweets. So that years from now, our children's children can look up what we had for lunch on any given day of the year.
7. This is awesome. I would like to meet this Nerdlington J. Techsupport.
8. Boston has no drinkable water. And MORE IMPORTANTLY, Bostonians can't get their Dunks and Sam Adams has stopped brewing. This will have HUGE repercussions, people. HUGE. Thankfully, Dunk has found another way for people to get their fix.

Points of Order

• There are TWO WEEKS LEFT, PEOPLE. Dig deep down in those pockets. Pretty please? DONATE. Every dollar helps. Thank you.
• The Christmas spirit has struck me early this year. Santa's list has been made, and I'm counting down the days until I can put the tree up. This will be our first Christmas "at home" here in SD. I'm not counting That One Year I Gave Birth to My Firstborn Child Who Was Born 3 Days after Christmas.
• Check this out: Traffic Tirades. A friend of mine here in SD started this blog as a safe way to vent her road rage. I update the Twitter feed for this blog. You can follow us on Twitter, and you know you want to. @traffictirades
• .backwards is everything now and relocated was work at cubicle My (see what I did there? I'm so clever.)
• Ian will begin to commute up to 29 Palms during the week soon, and will only be home on weekends. We're getting a practice go of it this week, and IT SUCKS. That is all.

Sticks and Stones and the Kitchen Sink

As you may have heard, I recently had surgery to remove a fairly large kidney stone that has been an unending source of fun, happiness, and sunshine and rainbows. (I hope the sarcasm is just dripping.) Many of my friends, after hearing of my complications, scolded me for not updating them on my health status. But, here's the thing: IT WASN'T SUPPOSED TO BE A BIG DEAL. I've had kidney stones before, and, as statistics show, the probability that I'll get them again is high. This was, however, my first time that surgery was required to get them out. (Previous episodes simply involved much wailing and gnashing of teeth as I poised over the commode...P.S. I apologize in advance for anything you don't want to know, but hey, I'm trying to be discreet, and you are, after all, still reading, aren't you?) This was also not my first experience with Navy Medicine—Aaron was, after all, born at NMCSD (Naval Medical Center, San Diego) one balmy eve following the birth of Christ back in 2006—but after this experience, I certainly hope it will be one of the last.

My kidney stone originally reared its ugly head on June 12-13. On the evening of the 12th, I woke up in excruciating pain around midnight. Having had stones previously, I know right off the bat what it was. After I threw up for the third time, I had to enlist the help of my superwonderfulawesomeamazing friend, Lois, for help. While she stayed at the house while Aaron slept, I made my way to the ER down the road from us. That experience wasn't anything out of the norm, and, though it took awhile to get in and out of there, I walked out with pain meds and instructions to call my PCM.

Now, a sidenote about how military health care works. We have TriCare Prime, which means that we can go to our PCM (Primary Care Manager) as much as we want, and it's always covered; but, in order to see a specialist, any type of specialist, we have to be referred by our PCM. Even if I were to find a specialist on my own who accepts TriCare, TriCare will not pay for their services unless a referral comes through the PCM. Hoops, yes, but, more importantly, FREE.

But here's where things get slightly tricky. I went to see my PCM 2 days after my visit to the ER. TriCare did not approve my referral until 7 days later. Furthermore, they did not notify me that they had approved it until 6 days after THAT. Most unfortunately (for me), however, was the fact that my referral was picked up by an MTF (Military Treatment Facility—i.e., a Navy Hospital). The particular MTF to which I was referred was aboard Camp Pendleton, 30 miles and close to an hour away from my house. However, as TriCare operates on a "straight-line mileage" system, (basically, draw a straight line from my house to the MTF, and if it's within a certain radius, boom, it's done.), ultimately cutting both the actual time and distance in half. Whatever. I had kidney stones, I was in pain (albeit not constant), it had already been over 2 weeks since my diagnosis and I needed to see someone, STAT.

And, so, my tumultous relationship with NMCCP (Naval Medical Center, Camp Pendleton) began.

*Ring, ring*
Corpsman: Thank you for calling Naval Medical Center, Urology, this is Corpsman Whateverhisnamewas, how may I help you, sir or ma'am?
Bree: Hi, I have a referral from TriCare. I was diagnosed with kidney stones about 2 weeks ago, and would like your earliest available appointment.
Corpsman: [...][...][...][...]
Bree: Hello?
Corpsman: Yes, ma'am, I'm looking for you now. How about next Wednesday, the 8th at 0820?
Bree: No, I said I needed your FIRST available appointment.
Corpsman: Yes, ma'am, that is the first one we have available.
Bree: Today is June 29th. That's over a week away, and I've been in pain for 2 weeks. Not to mention, I won't be able to make that date since my husband will be coming home from Iraq that day.
Corpsman: [...] One moment, ma'am. [...][...][...][...][...][...][...][...][...] (at this point, we're probably on the phone for about 15 minutes.) OK, ma'am, I just spoke with the doctor, and he can stay after hours for you on Monday, the 6th.
Bree: That's still a week away.
Corpsman: Yes ma'am, but it's the first available appointment.
Bree: Well, in that case, can you put me through to someone who can release my authorization referral to a civilian provider who can see me in a more expeditious fashion?
Corpsman: No, ma'am, since NMCCP has space available, we are unable to release your authorization.
Bree: You mean to tell me that your clinic is claiming to have "space available" and you can't see me for 7 DAYS?!
Corpsman: Yes, ma'am.

At this point, I called shenanigans. I threw temper tantrums at (admittedly undeserving) underlings, I called supposedly higher-ranking powers-that-be, I even tried crying, and none of it worked. By the time I had finished, the "first available" appointment was no longer available. Of course. I FINALLY got in to see a urologist on July 13. ONE MONTH after my diagnosis. After an extensive (and by "extensive," I obviously mean "the doctor spoke so fast I had trouble keeping up, and by the time I left his office, my head was still trying to comprehend the first 7 words he spit out at me") interview, I left the office with a pre-op date, and an appointment for same-day surgery should the stone not pass on its own as well as a prescription for, as the doctor told me in his own words (the three I actually managed to understand) "medicine for prostates."

Um, excuse me, doctor, did you happen to notice that I'M NOT A MAN? I mean, sometimes my fingers swell when it's hot, but the long hair and the high heels didn't give it away? I DON'T HAVE A PROSTATE.

Oh, and maybe I should mention that all of this was arranged without any type of scan. No, no, Doc trusted me. If I was still having pain, then it was probably still in there. Drink a lot of water, try to pass it, and, for God's sake, woman, take your prostate medicine!

2 weeks and 1 day later, I head back to NMCCP for my pre-op exam. In those two weeks and one day, I had had some pain, an occassional flare up, and I assumed that the stone was still there. So, again, the Doc TOOK MY WORD FOR IT. Surgery was set for the next day.

Scans? Who needs 'em? Why bother verifying that the thing you plan to retrieve by STICKING A HOSE UP MY LADY PARTS is, actually, in fact, there in the first place? Semantics.

Wednesday, July 29--Same day surgery. All goes well. I check in, they put me under, wheel me in, take it out, and bam. I'm done. Prove to us that you can, in fact, pee, and you're good to go.

Thursday, July 30--Since I'm on some pretty heavy pain medication, I spend the day sleeping and watching movies.

Friday, July 31--Back to work. Things feel slightly weird, since, after all, I will continue on with a stent in my ureter for 3 more days to ensure everything heals all nice-like. I sit at a desk and read with my red pen poised, and it's not like I do any heavy lifting or anything, so this should be fine. And it is, until it isn't. Once I stand up to retrieve something I printed off, I come to realize that my pants are wet. I take that back. My pants are SOAKING wet. Now, I can't really remember the last time I wet my pants, so this is a little shocking to me. After telling my boss that I have to go home, because I literally just pissed myself, I call the urology clinic on the way home.

*Ring, ring*
Corpsman: Thank you for calling Naval Medical Center, Urology, this is Corpsman Whateverhisnamewas, how may I help you, sir or ma'am?
Bree: Yeah, hi, this is Bree Brown, and I was in your clinic on Wednesday for same-day surgery. I seem to be having some, uh, complications? May I speak with a doctor, please?
Corpsman: Unfortunately, there are no doctors available to speak with you ma'am. You see, we're holding a free prostate screening today, so they're all occupied with that. Is there anything I can help you with?
Bree: (after mentally correcting Corpsman's grammar) Um, well, I'm having some side effects that no one ever mentioned, so I'm a little concerned that something's wrong, and I'd really like to speak with a doctor.
Corpsman: Well, unfortunately, they're unable to speak with you.
Bree: Well, can you go grab one of them? I had SURGERY in your clinic TWO DAYS AGO, and I, apparently, no longer have control over my bladder. I. Need. To. Speak. With. A. Doctor.
Corpsman: Ma'am, I'd like to help, but I suggest that you go to the ER if you think you're having complications.

At which point, the humiliation of having peed myself in public, and the mounting frustration with Navy Medicine get to me, and I say, "Great. Thanks. Good-bye," and go home to change my pants.

But, no, the story doesn't end there. And, if you're squeamish, or don't like reading about anatomy, stop reading now, and know that I'm all better now. :)

So, for those of you who decided to stick it out, when I got home and went to the bathroom, I realized that the stent was no longer attached by a string, as it should have been, but rather, hanging half out of...well, you know. Since things have now obviously gone wrong, I pull it the rest of the way out (um, OUCH, to say the least) and I call the clinic determined to find out just what. The. Eff. Is. Going. On.

**ring ring
Incompetent Civilian Bitch: Urology.
Bree: Hi, this is Brianne Brown. I had surgery in your clinic on Wednesday, and I'm having complications. I need to speak with a doctor now.
ICB: [...][...][...] *sigh* Mrs. Brown, you were told that we were giving free prostate exams today, and you know there aren't any doctors available to speak with you.
Bree: I understand that, but I'm actually a patient of yours, one who had SURGERY in your clinic from which I am having what I believe to be serious complications; don't I rank slightly higher than someone who walks in off the street and who may or may not be sick? What would you like me to do?!
ICB: Go to the ER.
Bree: Oh, yeah, great, thanks.

And just as I was about to ask her another question, I heard a click, and realized the ICB had just hung up on me. At which point, I burst into tears, from both frustration and an ever-sharpening pain in my back. Ian, at this point most likely fed up with me, throws me in the truck, slaps his bluetooth in his ear, and simultaneously drives me to the ER while pulling rank to "bludgeon someone into submission" (his words, not mine). Although his attempts at bludgeonment were, ultimately, lost on the ICB, I still thought it was pretty sexy.

So, we get to the ER after a minor (and brief) struggle as to which ER we should go. He suggested the ER at NMCCP, and I said, no effing way you are...aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh, ooooooooooooo, ohhhhhhhhhhhh, god, it hurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrts...out of your freaking mind if you think...aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, make it stop!!!!!!!!!!!...think I'll be stepping foot in that mother effing...OHHHHHHMYYYYYGODDDDDDDDD, OOOOOOOOWWWWWWWW...hospital again. (Or, you know, something along those lines.)

So we get to the ER, where I am now crying solely from the pain. They want me to pee in a cup, and I can't, since apparently, it all came out IN MY PANTS. In public. At my job. FML. (I won't be spelling out that acronym for you, but if you know what it means, then you know what it means. If you don't, I apologize.) They FINALLY wheel me in to a room, where I change and they start the IV of pain medication. Dilaudid. It's amazing. As soon as it hit my bloodstream, my shoulders went numb, and I was all, like, "Kidney stones?! What kidney stones? This is niiiiiiice. Oooooooooooohhh, shiny lights..."

Eventually, Ian had to leave me to attend to the needs of and procure arrangements for our son, happily oblivious to what he would later refer to as "Mommy's owie." While he was gone, the doctor came in to tell me that, after looking at my scans, I had a kidney stone. And I was all like, well, that's funny, since I just had one taken out, and I HAVEN'T HAD A SCAN YET. (This hasn't been confirmed, but my suspicion is that he was looking at the one and only scan ever taken for this kidney stone, the same one that originally started this whole mess.) And he was all like, "Oh, well we should have you get one." And I'm all like, "YA THINK?!"

Well, they finally wheeled me off for said scan, and apparently, the doc was pyschic: the scans STILL showed a kidney stone. What to do, what to do? Eh, screw it; just send her home with a prescription for some anti-nausea meds to add to her ever-expanding home pharmacy.

I felt like making a tshirt that said, "I spent 6 hours in the ER, and all I got was this lousy Zofran."

Saturday and Sunday were spent muffling my screams of pain and sobbing into my pillow.

Monday Ian took the morning off work and together, we set off for NMCCP to crack skulls. I was originally scheduled to head back there anyway, to have my stent removed, but thought I would take the opportunity to rain my wrath down upon the Urology clinic. Since I didn't have an appointment, I had to wait. And as Ian and I honed our skillz on iPhone Jeopardy, I grew increasingly enraged.

Unfortunately, I didn't really have a chance to rain said wrath, because what the doc said (and I made him speak slowly this time) mostly made sense. Since the stone I had removed was so large, and in such a weird spot in the ureter, they had to blast it into pieces to take them out. During the surgery, it seemed, one of the pieces decided to be all sneaky and wily and head out to go hang out at the bar in the kidney, so the docs didn't see it, and therefore, didn't get it out. When the stent fell out (apparently, not uncommon in women, since the stent doesn't have as far to travel in men, and men don't accidentally tug on the the string when they wipe themselves after they pee) the ureter was raw and irritated from the surgery, and, as Left Behind Stone started to make its way out, it was coming through rather, uh, rugged conditions, if you will. Hence the pillow screaming.

Doc sent me home with, gasp, shock, more pills, including the prostate one again, but also the pill form of the shoulder-numbing IV drio I had had in the ER on Friday.

So that brings us to now. I haven't had any pillow screaming episodes since, and I was able to return to work on Thursday. (Slightly inconvenient for my very patient and understanding boss, since I'll be leaving again for a week beginning Thursday on a planned vacation...oh, well.) I don't know if the stone ever passed, or is passed out in the Kidney Bar, and I still have a pharmacy's worth of pills at my beck and call. I'll soon be googling the street value of Dilaudid. Make me an offer, people.

The moral of the story: Navy Medicine sucks, and while free, it certainly seems that you get what you pay for. Also, Murphy's Law applies; whatever can go wrong will.

The Pilot's Wife Rules of Driving in the Rain

Recently, SoCal has been hit by some rather unfavorable weather. In fact, I'm seriously considering asking for my money back: I signed up for sunny and 70, folks, not rainy and 40!

Now, don't get me wrong. I, as much as the next person, enjoy a rainy day at home, in bed with a good book, but what I truly don't enjoy is the Monday morning commute with a bunch of weenie SoCal drivers. And, on days like today, I really envy my husband, who can just fly over all this commuter crap.

So, you see, I grew up in Atlanta, in a part of the state that sees some CRAZY ASS WEATHER. On more than one occasion, my mother literally had to drag me down to the basement so I wouldn't be sucked up into the sky by the funnel cloud of which I so desperately wanted to catch a glimpse. So, needless to say, driving in the rain isn't that big a deal to me. Because, let's face it, on I-285, it's sink or swim, bitches. Actually, more like drive or DIE.

So you can imagine my frustration as I attempted to wind my way down the I-15 this morning. On a normal day, the flow of traffic on that highway can be expected to be about 80mph or so, so you can imagine my consternation at having to drive 40 FRAKKING MILES PER HOUR through what can only be described as heavy drizzle.

With my patience wearing thinner and thinner (as well as that of my son, Aaron, screaming from the backseat, "GO GO GO GO!), my exit came into view. THANK YOU LORD. However, blocking my ability to exit the highway is Joe Douchebag, who is trying to merge into the flow of traffic by COMING TO A COMPLETE STOP, sitting in the right hand lane with his blinker on. Really, people, how hard is it to MERGE? (And alternatively, for those already in the flow of traffic, don't be an assface -- let the bastard in!) They even put up those ridiculously asinine ramp lights to help you out with that. (And don't even get me started on those...because really, it makes COMPLETE sense to require drivers to come to a complete stop, before giving them approximately 50 yards to merge into 80mph traffic!) But no, here sits Joe Douchebag, at zero miles per hour, completely blocking the right lane, and apparently oblivious to the horn on which I have been leaning for the past five minutes. (And all I got for my trouble was an extended middle finger!)

So, with that delightful little introduction, I give you, dear reader (and dear Joe Douchebag) The Pilot's Wife Rules of Driving in the Rain:

1) Turn your headlights on.
This really is a no brainer. Combine the fog of the marine layer with the steam rising off the road, and basically any moisture falling on San Diego is going to create a bit of limited visibility. Trust me, this isn't for your benefit alone: it also helps the people behind you from smashing into your rear bumper. Leading me to #2...

2) DON'T TAILGATE.
Taking into consideration that 98% of the population of Southern California reacts to rain in much the same way that Atlantans react to a single snowflake falling from the sky, you'll be doing yourself a favor by allowing a little extra space between you and the car in front of you. So, at the very least, when the idiot in front of you can't seem to remember if THIS is his exit or not (in spite of the fact that he probably makes this commute EVERY DAY OF HIS LIFE) and slams on his brakes in order to squint at the sign, you'll be far enough behind him to react appropriately. A general rule of thumb for this is one car length for every 10mph. That, however, is not to say...

3) See that sign? That's the speed limit!
If the posted speed limit is 65 miles per hour, why don't you maybe try going 55 when it's raining? Really, 35 mph is a bit excessive.

4) Pump your brakes.
Should the cars in front of you not read this blog, and don't know to turn on their headlights or drive faster than a normal person can run, don't slam on your brakes when they ultimately slam on theirs. Water on the road = hydroplaning. Ease on up, huh?

5) If you really can't hack it, pull the frak over.
If you can't stand the heat (or my horn), get out of the kitchen. Pull over to the right, turn on your hazard lights, and wait it out.

6) OBEY THE LAW.
I'm talking to you, truckers! You know that little law that FORBIDS you from driving in the lefthand lane? Well, just because it's raining doesn't mean that it doesn't still apply.

I really think that if everyone took these simple rules into account (read: if everyone was as awesome as I am), we could all just get along swimmingly.

The Big One

Yesterday was an interesting day for me. As I sat in my cubicle around 11:45, thinking about lunch while exchanging phone calls with our escrow officer as we desperately tried to close on our house, I got a little dizzy and started swaying.

Or so I thought.

After a few seconds, I realized that I wasn’t the only thing swaying. So was my computer, and the walls of my cube, and the plants all around the office. I heard a co-worker exclaim as though she were on a roller coaster; someone else yelled out “Earthquake!” Then, the swaying stopped and the shaking started.

Now, I’m a die-hard east coaster. Give me a nor’easter or a blizzard or a tornado or a hurricane any day of the week. I’ve lived through those, and I know what to do when they occur. And although the first time wasn’t necessarily a charm, I’m now a bit more educated in the wildfire scenario as well. Earthquakes, however, a bit new and mostly an unwelcome experience for me.

When things started shaking, and the walls began moving back and forth, the voices on my floor elevated. This wasn’t a typical earthquake—something you usually classify as momentary dizziness and dismiss before looking at your neighbor, who seems to have come down with the same case of dizziness simultaneously, before you’re both like, “oh, wait, what? Was that an earthquake?”—no, this time there was no questions. I stood up (why? I don’t know. Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? No? Oh well.) and looked around, watching a few of my more experienced coworkers run for doorways or hit the floor. It eventually went through my head that I probably didn’t want to be standing right then, and I kneeled under my desk for the next terrifying 15 seconds or so.

When it stopped, things were still a bit shaky. It was like I’d just been on a boat for hours and stepped onto land—that woozy, discombobulating feeling. While my coworkers shared their various clichés, (“That was a doozy!” “ Holy cow!” and the like) I jumped onto my computer and Googled “recent earthquakes.” Within seconds, I was able to inform them that it was a 5.8 (which would later be downgraded to a 5.4) magnitude quake that hit Chino Hills. (Which sparked another debate as to the location of Chino – wasn’t that in NorCal? You know, up by Stockton? No, that’s Chico—Chino is outside of L.A.)

Thankfully, as The Governator later reminded us, L.A. came out rather lucky. CNN also reports that “The Big One” is still to come – that within the next 30 years, there’s a 99% chance that California will experience an earthquake of 6.7 magnitude or greater. (Good thing we just signed a 30-year loan! Hello, irony.) Hopefully by then, I’ll be shoveling my way out of my driveway in New England.

The Light At the End of the Tunnel...

My time has come, people. Today, I put in my two weeks' notice at my job. After almost thirteen months, I just got tired of being told to hurry up and wait for an opportunity to arise. Now, I will actively seeking opportunities myself, and not waiting for them to come to me. So, if you have any friends and/or contacts in the San Diego area looking for writers/editors/proofreaders, please think of me. You will receive a shout out on this world-famous blog.